A Tarot reading is a conversation. Well, my style of reading Tarot is a conversation. It is the reader, the querent/seeker, and a Higher Source of energy sitting down and having a good chat as we peer over the cards.
Over the years I’ve learned a lot from reading the cards. In this case, I’m not talking about symbolism, or history, or magic, or mysticism. I’m talking about learning how to interact with other people in a way that feels authentic and beneficial to me, and about self-awareness.
These are ten things that I’ve learned from the cards, attitudes and approaches that I strive to bring to my Tarot readings.
I also strive to bring all this to my interactions with people that don’t involve the cards. I don’t always achieve them, but I’m committed to learning and improving.
- Don’t make any assumptions. What is a dream come true for you could be a nightmare for others. Your vision of a perfect relationship may be the opposite of someone else’s. Your goals and desired outcomes may be completely different than another person’s. Someone else may have been through experiences that you have absolutely no frame of reference for. Put aside assumptions, and judgement, as much as possible.
- Listen more and let other people talk. That might be all they really need from you, to be heard and to have access to a sounding board or gentle guide.
- Be honest and clear in your communication. If you can’t communicate in a way that the other person can understand or assimilate, you’re wasting everyone’s time. Also be aware of when someone else isn’t ready to hear what you want to tell them.
- Think before you speak. Once it is said, it is said. Even if you backpedal you may have already planted an unhelpful seed in someone’s mind. However, do say those things that your intuition prompts you to say, even if they seem crazy at the time.
- Keep your sense of humor. Check your ego and be willing to laugh at yourself.
- Ask questions. Be curious and explore issues from many different perspectives. Say, “What if…”. Play Devil’s advocate.
- Admit that you’re wrong when you’re wrong. Everyone makes mistakes and has off days.
- Don’t just say what people want to hear to avoid conflict, to please, or to be liked. Always be as tactful and kind as you are able, but don’t perpetuate wishful or harmful thinking. And, don’t take it personally if someone doesn’t like you or your style, to each their own.
- Be aware of your own energy and state of mind. Don’t put your frustration, sadness or anger on to someone else.
- Be helpful. Whenever you can, be uplifting, inspiring, and compassionate.
Tarot has taught me much more than this, but this is a start.
What would you add to the list?