Since I’ve been working mainly from home, I’ve become hyper-aware of my environment.
It is now my universe, my haven, my office, my nest, my cubicle, my cave…most often my sanctuary, sometimes a claustrophobia and stir-craziness inducing place.
For the past few weeks I have been spring cleaning and purging. And the fact that its been taking weeks should give you an idea of how badly I need to do this. As I write this, I look around my little office and see how much more I need to do. I’m at the point of organized chaos, but chaos nonetheless.
I love my stuff. I like shiny things, souvenirs, symbolic representations of real things I love, rich textures and images that evoke memories of the exotic and feelings of love and happy memories.
But, over the past few years, the clutter has taken over…when my husband and I moved to Japan, we threw everything into storage. When we moved back to Toronto, we put those same boxes into our new basement. And added a bunch of new boxes filled with memories from Asia. And there those boxes sat, and sat, and sat. Eventually we went through everything, amazed that it felt important at the time to keep certain things…clothes that we would never wear again, ticket stubs from everywhere we visited in our travels, old birthday and bridal shower cards, quite a startling collection of wine and cocktail glasses, and flowing rivers of paper.
When you keep things for a long time, they take on a significance.
Even if the item isn’t so important, the fact that it has been in your life for so long gives it a certain weight, it makes us feel a connection to our past selves. This can be good or bad…an item can make us remember a beautiful time from the past, or can bring up feelings of disappointment, hurt or guilt. Either way, we tend to keep the item…even if the feelings it raises are upsetting, we feel a connection and can’t let go.
I’m at the point now where I just don’t have the time, space or energy to harbor THINGS that don’t serve me well.
I am going through the process of getting rid, getting light, paring down. If I LOVE it, if I absolutely need it, if it enriches my life, it stays. If not, say hello to the charity shop.
Being a Tarot person, I came up with a way to help me when I come across an item that is really giving me trouble. Usually I think about consulting the cards when I am having trouble getting rid of something, even though I know I will feel lighter and freer if I do. This little spread can help you to examine your relationship with your stuff, and gain some insight into what is really going on there…why a particular item has a hold over you, really, and what can you do about it.
The “Why am I hanging on to this?” Spread
I don’t recommend that you use this spread for everything in your closet or basement that you are thinking about purging, that would take forever and be a bit ridiculous. But, if there is something that you have been keeping in a box for years, and in some way it bothers you that you still have it, why not consult the cards?
This process may be just what you need to break free of old, unexamined feelings that have attached themselves to material things…by getting rid of the item, you may free yourself from emotions that you no longer need.
Give this spread a try and let me know how it works for you! And let me know if you need help getting rid of stuff, I’m getting to be an unstoppable expert!
This was exactly what I needed to read at exactly the right time. It’s hard to get rid of things, because the stuff I have now I really like. The junk is all gone. I wish my kids wanted some of these beauties, but they have their own style. Anyway, thank you! It was funny — I was just cruising around the Internet for different tarot ideas, and just by chance recognized your jewelry from Readers Studio, where we recently met. I have a terrific photo of you as the Queen of Wands, if I am not mistaken? Well, take care, m’lady. Linda Thompson-Mills
Hi Linda! So nice to hear from you! I was indeed the Queen of Wands at Readers Studio this year, wasn’t that a great time! Good luck with your clearing out, its not easy, but I always feel so much lighter afterwards. Thanks again and keep in touch!